Not until of recent i discovered that all ido to my self is self-criticism seeing all the wrongs in me and not appreciating the good part of me cause our society tend to make you feel bad about yourself not appreciating, motivating, or helping you discover who really you are, even the family you belong, seemingly adverse parental evaluation can, and frequently does, go far beyond disapproving specific behaviors. For example, parents may transmit to us the overall message that we're selfish--or not attractive enough, smart enough, good or "nice" enough and so on. At a slightest mistake you make your been castigated, little can you contribute and it will make meaning, you always feel rejected ,depressed and that make you stay in that isolated corner of yours and seeing all the bad images you are labeled there by repressing your real self. As a result of what most mental health professionals would agree reflects a subtle form of emotional abuse, almost all of us come to regard ourselves as only conditionally acceptable beings. To this end I come to a realization that instead of being the real you and realizing your potential you end up trying to copy others around you and totally becoming a nonentity and end in life regret.
“Wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are.” ― Marilyn Monroe
That made me to write this short article to tell you the little secret about the real you and a gargantuan action to break loose from that “isolation syndrome”.
Self-acceptance is an artless way seen as acknowledging your strength and weakness and fully appreciating it, finding happiness and self-satisfaction in it. Further more
According to Shepard (1979), self-acceptance refers to an individual's satisfaction or happiness with himself, and is thought to be necessary for good mental health. Self-acceptance involves self-understanding, a realistic, albeit subjective, awareness of one's strengths and weaknesses. It results in an individual's feeling about himself that he is of "unique worth".
Shorn of all dispute you can come into concord with me that the best solution to that” isolation syndrome” is self-acceptance identifying your capabilities (strength) and incapability’s (weakness) and putting them in tandem by been satisfied with who you are and working on the strengths to overcome the weakness. Check out the people you think are better or you dream to become, your artiste or role model they have accepted all their flaws and work on it that’s why today you are dying to be that person, have you ever pick a mirror and at last you ended not been satisfied with your body physiche, shape of your nose, ears, ball head etc. all this has come up as a result of lack of self-acceptance.
Although self-acceptance involves a willingness to accept and experience your feelings, this does not mean that once you are self-accepting you will become ruled by your emotions and incapable of logical thought. For example suppose today you are in the mood to work, but you know that you have an important project which you must complete. A person who lacks self-esteem would automatically try to deny or repress those feelings, disassociating themselves from reality of how they feel. The consequences of this would most likely manifest itself physically in the form of frustration, tension, boredom or even anger. This occurs because by denying how truly you feel, you begin your day with self – deception and denial of reality. As a result you do dot take appropriate action to remedy the situation, which then causes an internal conflict within you that itself as the physical symptoms previously described. However a person who is self-accepting can acknowledge that they may not be in the mood to work, but rather than trying, they accept their feelings and get started on the project. That’s a picture of the dictum of self-acceptance.
“I don't know if I continue even today, always liking myself. But what I learned to do many years ago was to forgive myself. It is very important for every human being to forgive herself or himself because if you live, you will make mistakes- it is inevitable. But once you do and you see the mistake, then you forgive yourself and say, 'Well, if I'd known better I'd have done better,' that's all. So you say to people who you think you may have injured, 'I'm sorry,' and then you say to yourself, 'I'm sorry.' If we all hold on to the mistake, we can't see our own glory in the mirror because we have the mistake between our faces and the mirror; we can't see what we're capable of being. You can ask forgiveness of others, but in the end the real forgiveness is in one's own self. I think that young men and women are so caught by the way they see themselves. Now mind you. When a larger society sees them as unattractive, as threats, as too black or too white or too poor or too fat or too thin or too sexual or too asexual, that's rough. But you can overcome that. The real difficulty is to overcome how you think about yourself.
If we don't have that we never grow, we never learn, and sure as hell we should never teach.”
― Maya Angelou
Self-acceptance is a conscious step you need to take to combat the “isolation syndrome” here are some steps to help you break loose.
Identify your strengths and weaknesses, i.e. knowing what you are good in skills, hobbies, talent it might be writing ,reading, public speaking, singing, craft, games thing you feel happy when doing, you will agree with me that those who do what they like most always achieve the best result. And your weakness like boredom, anger, lack of participation, lack appreciation, addictive habits etc. so this first step and the most valuable.
Make a list of the top three things you criticize about yourself, and then decide on some positive, useful messages that would better help you accomplish your goals.
Beyond just your usual favorite hobbies, is there something new you can pick up? Any new sport you can learn? Examples are fencing, golf, volleyball, hockey, football, canoeing, or ice skating. Your new hobby can also be a recreational hobby. For example, pottery, catering, tailoring, dancing, wine appreciation, web design, etc. Learning something new requires you to stretch yourself in different aspects, whether physically, mentally or emotionally.
If you ever stand for something, you are going to get haters. It’s easy to hate the people who hate us. It’s much more challenging to love them back. Being able to forgive, let go and show love to these people, it requires magnanimity and an open heart. Is there anyone who dislikes or hates you in your life? If so, reach out to them. Show them love. Seek a resolution and get closure on past grievances. Even if they refuse to reciprocate, love them all the same. It’s much more liberating than to hate them back. Never allow past hurts to deny your future glory.
NOTE:
You are that unique person that can do that which you dream of so if you repress it you stand irrelevant.
Nobody will blow your horn for you, so never wait on anybody to help you actualize your dream but they can be part of the dream when it’s brought to lime light.
If not you who will?
Don’t try to do a thing which never makes you happy or trying to please others by denying your own potentials.
People will criticize you, say bad about you, reject you but use it as a catalyst to further press on in achieving your goals if it’s of logical value.
“All I'm saying is that sooner or later, you'll have to come to terms with yourself. You can't wish away the vampire in you, and you shouldn't keep atoning for it. You should figure out who you are and what you need, and then don't apologize for it. Not to me, to your mum, or to anyone.”
― Jeaniene Frost
“SELF ACCEPTANCE
Not until of recent i discovered that all ido to my self is self-criticism seeing all the wrongs in me and not appreciating the good part of me cause our society tend to make you feel bad about yourself not appreciating, motivating, or helping you discover who really you are, even the family you belong, seemingly adverse parental evaluation can, and frequently does, go far beyond disapproving specific behaviors. For example, parents may transmit to us the overall message that we're selfish--or not attractive enough, smart enough, good or "nice" enough . . . and so on. At a slightest mistake you make your been castigated, little can you contribute and it will make meaning, you always feel rejected ,depressed and that make you stay in that isolated corner of yours and seeing all the bad images you are labeled there by repressing your real self. As a result of what most mental health professionals would agree reflects a subtle form of emotional abuse, almost all of us come to regard ourselves as only conditionally acceptable beings. To this end I come to a realization that instead of being the real you and realizing your potential you end up trying to copy others around you and totally becoming a nonentity and end in life regret.
“Wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are.” ― Marilyn Monroe
That made me to write this short article to tell you the little secret about the real you and a gargantuan action to break loose from that “isolation syndrome”.
Self-acceptance is an artless way seen as acknowledging your strength and weakness and fully appreciating it, finding happiness and self-satisfaction in it. Further more
According to Shepard (1979), self-acceptance refers to an individual's satisfaction or happiness with himself, and is thought to be necessary for good mental health. Self-acceptance involves self-understanding, a realistic, albeit subjective, awareness of one's strengths and weaknesses. It results in an individual's feeling about himself that he is of "unique worth".
Shorn of all dispute you can come into concord with me that the best solution to that” isolation syndrome” is self-acceptance identifying your capabilities (strength) and incapability’s (weakness) and putting them in tandem by been satisfied with who you are and working on the strengths to overcome the weakness. Check out the people you think are better or you dream to become, your artiste or role model they have accepted all their flaws and work on it that’s why today you are dying to be that person, have you ever pick a mirror and at last you ended not been satisfied with your body physiche, shape of your nose, ears, ball head etc. all this has come up as a result of lack of self-acceptance.
Although self-acceptance involves a willingness to accept and experience your feelings, this does not mean that once you are self-accepting you will become ruled by your emotions and incapable of logical thought. For example suppose today you are in the mood to work, but you know that you have an important project which you must complete. A person who lacks self-esteem would automatically try to deny or repress those feelings, disassociating themselves from reality of how they feel. The consequences of this would most likely manifest itself physically in the form of frustration, tension, boredom or even anger. This occurs because by denying how truly you feel, you begin your day with self – deception and denial of reality. As a result you do dot take appropriate action to remedy the situation, which then causes an internal conflict within you that itself as the physical symptoms previously described. However a person who is self-accepting can acknowledge that they may not be in the mood to work, but rather than trying, they accept their feelings and get started on the project. That’s a picture of the dictum of self-acceptance.
How to move out of the “isolation syndrome” .
“I don't know if I continue even today, always liking myself. But what I learned to do many years ago was to forgive myself. It is very important for every human being to forgive herself or himself because if you live, you will make mistakes- it is inevitable. But once you do and you see the mistake, then you forgive yourself and say, 'Well, if I'd known better I'd have done better,' that's all. So you say to people who you think you may have injured, 'I'm sorry,' and then you say to yourself, 'I'm sorry.' If we all hold on to the mistake, we can't see our own glory in the mirror because we have the mistake between our faces and the mirror; we can't see what we're capable of being. You can ask forgiveness of others, but in the end the real forgiveness is in one's own self. I think that young men and women are so caught by the way they see themselves. Now mind you. When a larger society sees them as unattractive, as threats, as too black or too white or too poor or too fat or too thin or too sexual or too asexual, that's rough. But you can overcome that. The real difficulty is to overcome how you think about yourself. If we don't have that we never grow, we never learn, and sure as hell we should never teach.”
― Maya Angelou
Self-acceptance is a conscious step you need to take to combat the “isolation syndrome” here are some steps to help you break loose.
Identify your strengths and weaknesses, i.e. knowing what you are good in skills, hobbies, talent it might be writing ,reading, public speaking, singing, craft, games thing you feel happy when doing, you will agree with me that those who do what they like most always achieve the best result. And your weakness like boredom, anger, lack of participation, lack appreciation, addictive habits etc. so this first step and the most valuable.
Make a list of the top three things you criticize about yourself, and then decide on some positive, useful messages that would better help you accomplish your goals.
Beyond just your usual favorite hobbies, is there something new you can pick up? Any new sport you can learn? Examples are fencing, golf, volleyball, hockey, football, canoeing, or ice skating. Your new hobby can also be a recreational hobby. For example, pottery, catering, tailoring, dancing, wine appreciation, web design, etc. Learning something new requires you to stretch yourself in different aspects, whether physically, mentally or emotionally.
If you ever stand for something, you are going to get haters. It’s easy to hate the people who hate us. It’s much more challenging to love them back. Being able to forgive, let go and show love to these people, it requires magnanimity and an open heart. Is there anyone who dislikes or hates you in your life? If so, reach out to them. Show them love. Seek a resolution and get closure on past grievances. Even if they refuse to reciprocate, love them all the same. It’s much more liberating than to hate them back. Never allow past hurts to deny your future glory.
NOTE:
You are that unique person that can do that which you dream of so if you repress it you stand irrelevant.
Nobody will blow your horn for you, so never wait on anybody to help you actualize your dream but they can be part of the dream when it’s brought to lime light.
If not you who will?
Don’t try to do a thing which never makes you happy or trying to please others by denying your own potentials.
People will criticize you, say bad about you, reject you but use it as a catalyst to further press on in achieving your goals if it’s of logical value.
“All I'm saying is that sooner or later, you'll have to come to terms with yourself. You can't wish away the vampire in you, and you shouldn't keep atoning for it. You should figure out who you are and what you need, and then don't apologize for it. Not to me, to your mum, or to anyone.”
― Jeaniene Frost
“I’m nothing great. But I’m a rose… I’m a rose whether I’m admired or not, I’m a rose whether anyone’s crazy about me or not… Like I said nothing great. Just a rose… But, do you know what it means to be a rose, my friend? Being a rose means ‘freedom.’ It means not existing by the praises of others or not ceasing to exist by their disapproval.”
― Serdar Özkan
To conclude, only when we're able to give ourselves unqualified approval--by developing greater self-compassion and focusing much more on our positives than negatives-can we at last forgive ourselves for our faults, as well as relinquish our need for others' approval. No doubt we've made mistakes. But then, so has everybody else. And in any case our identity is hardly equal to our mistakes (for such a linkage would represent a bad case of "mistaken identity"!)
Finally, there's no reason we can't decide right now to transform our fundamental sense of who we are. And we may need to remind ourselves that our various weaknesses are part of what makes us human. If all our faults and failings were suddenly to disappear, my pet theory is that we'd instantly turn into white light and disappear from the face of this planet. So in the pursuit of unconditional self-acceptance, we might even want to take a certain pride in our imperfections. After all, were we beyond criticism in the first place, we'd never have the opportunity to rise to this uniquely human challenge.
I’m nothing great. But I’m a rose… I’m a rose whether I’m admired or not, I’m a rose whether anyone’s crazy about me or not… Like I said nothing great. Just a rose… But, do you know what it means to be a rose, my friend? Being a rose means ‘freedom.’ It means not existing by the praises of others or not ceasing to exist by their disapproval.”
― Serdar Özkan
To conclude, only when we're able to give ourselves unqualified approval--by developing greater self-compassion and focusing much more on our positives than negatives-can we at last forgive ourselves for our faults, as well as relinquish our need for others' approval. No doubt we've made mistakes. But then, so has everybody else. And in any case our identity is hardly equal to our mistakes (for such a linkage would represent a bad case of "mistaken identity"!)
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